Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss, is a great book on all things negotiation. Chris is a veteran negotiator and goes into details on the things he has used in his career to successfully negotiate in tough situations like hostage negotiations with terrorists. Below are some of the insights I got when reading the book.
Core Message
Everything is a negotiation. You get what you ask for, you just have to ask for it correctly - Chris Voss
Empathy is key
We should slow things down as we often we rush through negotiations and this makes the other party feel as if they are not being heard at all. We should try to remove any preconceived biases that we have and arguments that support our position when we head into a negotiation. We should keep an open mind and be ready for any surprises that might come our way. This way we aren't caught off guard and we are actively trying to gather info about what the other part really wants.
A case study was done by Richard Wiseman, where waiters were to use positive reinforcement and mirroring. The group that used mirroring by repeating the customers orders, saw an increase of tips by 70% . Put a smile on your face. This puts people in a positive frame of mind and they start to trust you instead of resisting you.
Aim for "That's Right"
Getting a person to say "That's right" is the key in any negotiation. Once the client says that, it shows that you have understood them, the emotion behind their actions and helps them see you in a new light.
A "That's Right" is better for negotiation as it gives the client the control as compared to yes which could be half assed and used as a way to make you go away. Think back of sales people who call you and ask you dumb questions that make you say Yes all in an effort to get you into a YES framework.
That's right is better than a yes. Strive for it in negotiations as it creates breakthroughs. Use a summary to trigger a that's right moment. The building blocks for a great summary are a label combined with paraphrasing.
See the emotion behind the decision
People will take risks to avoid a loss i.e loss aversion. So project your side of your argument in a way that makes them see it as a loss if they don't agree to your terms.
Thank you for the reading all the way to the end. I hope you found value in reading this review. If you have any feedback or suggestions, please let me know in the comment section. See you next time!
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